Let
me go on and get this out of the way, some of you will not appreciate this
post, others of you will, but we are going to celebrate Dads today!!
Today,
I received a text message from someone, to remain nameless, that said, “Happy
Father’s Day to the single mothers holding it down.” I wanted to text back, “You are an effin (not my
word of choice) idiot!!! However, I did not; I decided to write this blog
instead.
In
my opinion, that text was one of the most disrespectful text a single mom could
receive and participate in. Yes,
I am a single mother, but my parenting has always been co-parenting. If I must say so myself, I am a great mom, but I
am not nor will I ever be a DAD. No
matter how much love, guidance, time, and nurturing I give my children, I
cannot replace their dad.
Now,
do not get me wrong, I recognize that there are times when I may want to
discount/pay no attention to fathers that are not always there like I think
they should be or not following through on what I deem to be their parental
duties. (Notice the key word in that sentence is 'I'.) However, it
is not my role to disrespect or dishonor any father. Therefore, I do not allow my children to
disrespect or dishonor their father. You
will not fuss about him in front of me and you will not let just anything come
out of your mouth about him. I
tell them that is your dad and you will respect him as such, or you will deal
with me.
Of
course, there have been times when I have been angry, upset, and said some
things that perhaps I should have left in my head rather than flowing out of my
mouth. Hey,
I am human, if we were still married that would still happen, don’t play. However, when I do, I gather my children and
apologize for my temporary insanity. I
want my children to develop and form their own opinion of their dad, not one
that is tainted by my emotions. They
love their dad and their dad loves them.
Therefore,
on this beautiful Sunday morning, I sent a text to my children’s dad, “Hey!! Happy
Father’s Day. Thanks for giving me 3 wonderful children!” Despite how you feel about your child or
children’s father, he still should be a part of their life/lives. Perhaps some fathers would be better fathers if
we stopped trying to lessen their role and showed some support on a day that is
set aside for them.
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