Just My Views on Mr. and Mrs. Lozada-Ochocinco-Johnson

So, I wasn’t going to fall into the trap and discuss the Lozada-Ochocinco-Johnson mess, but I was on the phone with one of my girlfriends and…well, she trapped me.

First, let me say, I in NO WAY CONDONE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (some of you all read that again before you read the rest of this blog and read the rest of the blog before you start with me), I am sorry that this happen, but I’on really feel sorry for Evelyn.  Hell, she has been committing violent acts on folks for 2 or 3 seasons on Basketball Heauxs Wives.  Mrs. Lozada-Ochocinco-Johnson comes across on the show argumentative, nasty, stank, vindictive and violent.

She will not be the face of domestic violence for me, because violence is violence.  Point. Blank. Period. She is throwing bottles, plates, drinks, glasses, kicking off shoes and running across tables trying to fight someone that disagrees with her or someone that speaks ill of her.  Her behavior on Basketball Heauxs Wives is deplorable and downright degrading to all women, but especially women of color. 

Now, don’t misunderstand, I believe that often times when a woman accuses a man of abuse, people begin to ask what she may have done to get such a reaction…that is ludicrous!  No one deserves to get beat, hit, slapped, kicked, punched or head-butted no matter what they do or say.  I will give Mrs. Lazoda-Ochocinco-Johnson her props for leaving immediately, because there are countless women who stay in relationships with abusive partners/spouses/significant others for financial stability, fame, because they are scared or because it is what they saw growing up.  While many may believe her relationship with Chad Ochocinco Johnson was a fraud, a joke, laughable, she left at the first physical altercation which should be applauded.

However, I will say as the authorities sort this entire mess out, if it turns out that she physically instigated the argument, then she should be held accountable as well.  There are consequences and repercussions for all actions.

I have told my sons that no matter what, you are never to put your hands on a woman--no matter what she may say or do, know your WORTH! I have told my daughter, you are never to put your hands on a man because not every man will be raised like your brothers, and he may put his hands on you, so know your WORTH.   If a partner, spouse, or significant other ever abuses you in ANY WAY….LEAVE!

The question for the Lazoda-Ochocinco-Johnson family is, “Do they really know their WORTH?”