Just My Views on Mr. and Mrs. Lozada-Ochocinco-Johnson

So, I wasn’t going to fall into the trap and discuss the Lozada-Ochocinco-Johnson mess, but I was on the phone with one of my girlfriends and…well, she trapped me.

First, let me say, I in NO WAY CONDONE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (some of you all read that again before you read the rest of this blog and read the rest of the blog before you start with me), I am sorry that this happen, but I’on really feel sorry for Evelyn.  Hell, she has been committing violent acts on folks for 2 or 3 seasons on Basketball Heauxs Wives.  Mrs. Lozada-Ochocinco-Johnson comes across on the show argumentative, nasty, stank, vindictive and violent.

She will not be the face of domestic violence for me, because violence is violence.  Point. Blank. Period. She is throwing bottles, plates, drinks, glasses, kicking off shoes and running across tables trying to fight someone that disagrees with her or someone that speaks ill of her.  Her behavior on Basketball Heauxs Wives is deplorable and downright degrading to all women, but especially women of color. 

Now, don’t misunderstand, I believe that often times when a woman accuses a man of abuse, people begin to ask what she may have done to get such a reaction…that is ludicrous!  No one deserves to get beat, hit, slapped, kicked, punched or head-butted no matter what they do or say.  I will give Mrs. Lazoda-Ochocinco-Johnson her props for leaving immediately, because there are countless women who stay in relationships with abusive partners/spouses/significant others for financial stability, fame, because they are scared or because it is what they saw growing up.  While many may believe her relationship with Chad Ochocinco Johnson was a fraud, a joke, laughable, she left at the first physical altercation which should be applauded.

However, I will say as the authorities sort this entire mess out, if it turns out that she physically instigated the argument, then she should be held accountable as well.  There are consequences and repercussions for all actions.

I have told my sons that no matter what, you are never to put your hands on a woman--no matter what she may say or do, know your WORTH! I have told my daughter, you are never to put your hands on a man because not every man will be raised like your brothers, and he may put his hands on you, so know your WORTH.   If a partner, spouse, or significant other ever abuses you in ANY WAY….LEAVE!

The question for the Lazoda-Ochocinco-Johnson family is, “Do they really know their WORTH?”

Long Overdue Forgiveness At The Grocery Store

This is my first attempt to blog!!!  Whoo Hoo!! I am actually going to pull something that I placed on Facebook because I believe it will give you a look into the person I am.  Now, know that all my blogs will not be quite like this one. I am at times quirky, funny and loud, but I am always ME!!!

Today, I was doing the Saturday morning ritual of grocery shopping, which by the way, I abhor!  As I was walking down aisle 4, a woman who may not have been much older than me approached me and asked if I would like to trade $5 for $10 in food stamps.  Now, I have heard of this, but never been approached.  I thought about what she asked and simply said to her, "Can you wait until I come to the checkout line." As I was checking out, she came up behind me and said, "Here is my card, I will type in my code."  I told her to just wait for me at the end of  the checkout counter.  I proceeded to purchase my groceries and requested money back from my purchase.  I turned to her and her handed her the money I requested and said, "Ma'am, have a good day."  She stood there with her mouth opened and thanked me.

I don't tell this story for any kind of accolades, but I tell it because, but for the GRACE of God that could have been me.  I don't know her situation or story, but I do know mine.  Last year I lost my job...I won't go into details, let's just say "someone didn't like me, not my job performance, but me." I was devastated, lost and confused because I had been a "state" employee for 22 years. I  worked in various agencies throughout the state as the Public Affairs/Communications Director.  I worked my way up and was doing quite well, so you can imagine my fear and pain.  Not only that, I am a single mother of triplets and they were in their senior year of high school.  I was afraid I would not be able to provide for them.  But you know what I did?  I turned to God and gave it to him.  I prayed and believed He would not leave me.  To make a long story short.  God placed family, old friends and new friends in my life to help me, to support me, to lend me a hand, to lend me money (LOL) and this year I started a new job.  Through connections with 3, yes, 3 friends, I was able to start that new job.  The pay may not be what it was previously, but I am blessed and because of my blessings, I will bless those around me as much as I can with my time, my love, my friendship, my loyalty, my jokes, and on some occasions with my "liddo" bit of money.

As I was walking to the car, I asked the woman and her husband if I could pray with them, now my friends and family that know me -- know I love the Lord, but I will not pray out loud, unless I am saying grace for breakfast, lunch or dinner.  Well, I prayed for them and with them and not only did it release the hurt and pain from my job loss, but it helped me release the bitterness that I held in my heart for "those two chicks" (no names, please!). IT FREED ME!! So, as much as I was able to help the lady in the grocery store, she and her family helped me beyond my wildest imagination.  I give all the glory to God and I thank Him for that brief encounter.